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If you act like his mother, you will be treated like his mother.

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It dawned to me to write this post after I suddenly remembered an encounter with the mother of a gentleman I dated a life time ago. We were standing in his kitchen and after a thorough analysis she turns around and says to me: “My boy is so skinny, what have you been feeding him?”. I remember my answer being rather rude at that time as I have never been a supporter of women being their spouse’s care giver and definitely against taking the role of the mother in a relationship. I am a woman, if I want a child, I’ll make one. It cannot seize to impress me how even in 2020 women build up their sons to become this endless pile of need and unable to care or provide from themselves. The men grow up to think no woman is ever good enough for them and the one who finally is, will be expected to clean, cook and basically slave while pursuing their career. Ladies, I need to tell you that now a days so many men are brought up thinking they are Prince Charming and a woman who doesn’t cook, clean

We want the absolute best for ourselves, right?

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I have recently came across a very strong business woman. Although she might not be in the senior management for God knows what huge corporation, she has multiple ideas that she is working on, as well as other small businesses that she is growing. I have nothing but admiration and respect for somebody so strong and determined who knows exactly what she wants and will stop at nothing to get it. Getting to know her made me really think about us women in general and how often we contemplate our perfect life, but how just as often we make excuses for not going and getting it. As I was becoming a bit tired of being the person who is vividly dreaming about the perfect life-style, I made some drastic changes at the beginning of the year and I am pushing myself with all I have to not fall back into the old patterns.  I cannot stress enough how much determination you ought to put out there in order to keep pushing yourself as so often we come across so many reasons to stop, it's unbe

How do I behave at first dates?

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I definitely cannot speak for everybody but when it comes to myself, I remember vividly having a time of my life where going on first dates, or anything that would resemble one - would be an incredible struggle. From what was I supposed to wear to what am I supposed to say or eat, all these question would float in my head before, during and long after the date was over. A few years ago I was asked out by one of the guys I used to go riding with. I have somehow always been interested in him due to this mysterious vibe he would give as well as his good looks. Being around that world a lot, I also felt lucky to be asked out by him as it wasn't necessarily something he'd often be doing so to me, it overwhelmed me with this deep feeling of gratefulness as if he was doing me an honor to notice me. The day has finally arrived and I basically spent the whole morning using face masks, anti-dark circles products, washed and curled my hair and wear a full face of make-up as wel

When loneliness hits...

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Last night I spent a wonderful time surrounded by friends whom I deeply care for. Among them, there were multiple thriving couples as well as a bunch of single women and my analytic thinking hit me that very moment. There are two ways to be single and in either of them, you have moments where loneliness hits you. www.pexels.com Of course that had made me take a step back and thank God and the Universe for the wonderful, profound relationship I am in and that in a chaotic world I managed to find my man but the altogether unsettling vibe of sadness and loneliness was thicker than normal in a event of such type, or at least that was my impression. So my next question is what to do when loneliness hits you? As it probably will, regardless of how positive you generally are and how happy in your single life. My mum gets lonely often even though she is the most independent, strong and happy to be on her own person I ever met so understandably a lot of single people out ther

How to prepare yourself for finding the one.

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I would like to start this post by quoting the fabulous, inspiring Mama Ru: "If you can't love yourself, how in the Hell are you going to love somebody else?" I'm convinced you are tired of hearing this cliche-looking saying that if you want to find true love, you need to start by loving yourself. Again, I am not any relationship guru, far from it but I would gladly share what works for me if that can slightly benefit even one person in their journey through life or in their search for love. Let's start a small step in your search by asking the question: do you want to be in relationship? Or do you want to find the person who you will build a future with? Who will be the father of your children - assuming you wish to have children, if not good for you, having children is no must and if you don't wish for one, that is absolutely fine - that you will build a home with and will drill your photos onto the walls of your new home? Take a deep breath and really

Fairy tales do become reality.

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In the modern era, meaningful connexions are among the rarest of the gems yet, me and my partner are living a fairy tale every single day. Speaking of our actual relationship, disregarding our professional lives as I strongly believe there is always room for improvement on that, my partner and I have indeed the perfect relationship and the secret to it is: willingness to compromise. After a series of unfortunate, tumultuous relationships where I was always the one who would give more than a 100% of her and mostly receiving nothing, a never ending course of failed attempts, heart aches and pain, I finally had learned my lesson: It was not me, it was not him, it was us. We were just not a good match. Trying to change a man is always a bad idea and it has been proven multiple times along the decades. Unless the man is willing to work on some bad habits for your sake, you will never manage to change him and believe me when I say, when a man truly loves you, he will give his very best

Top 5 toxic female characters in movies and TV Shows.

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As I'm growing more aware of the trend of talking about famous movies and TV series. I decided to write an article about what are - in my opinion - the most iconic love stories that by all means truly toxic and codependent. I consider useful to analyse what seams to be the most perfect, romantic relationship illustrated in a movie or a sitcom and reveal it for what it truly is: malicious. Let us do the countdown backwards as it increases the excitement, shall we? Number 5:  Lucas and Payton - One Tree Hill. All throughout the series, Payton was proved to be a confused little girl who had no idea what she truly wanted until it was taken away from her. She is far from the only female character behaving this way in modern TV Shows but what I specifically dislike in Payton is how she feels she is the rightful receiver of Luca's affections, regardless of who could get hurt in the process and when she finally has the chance to be with him, she finds a reason not to. Having lack