Emma's thoughts

I would like to start this post by quoting the fabulous, inspiring Mama Ru: "If you can't love yourself, how in the Hell are you going to love somebody else?" I'm convinced you are tired of hearing this cliche-looking saying that if you want to find true love, you need to start by loving yourself. Again, I am not any relationship guru, far from it but I would gladly share what works for me if that can slightly benefit even one person in their journey through life or in their search for love. Let's start a small step in your search by asking the question: do you want to be in relationship? Or do you want to find the person who you will build a future with? Who will be the father of your children - assuming you wish to have children, if not good for you, having children is no must and if you don't wish for one, that is absolutely fine - that you will build a home with and will drill your photos onto the walls of your new home? Take a deep breath and really ...

In the modern era, meaningful connexions are among the rarest of the gems yet, me and my partner are living a fairy tale every single day. Speaking of our actual relationship, disregarding our professional lives as I strongly believe there is always room for improvement on that, my partner and I have indeed the perfect relationship and the secret to it is: willingness to compromise. After a series of unfortunate, tumultuous relationships where I was always the one who would give more than a 100% of her and mostly receiving nothing, a never ending course of failed attempts, heart aches and pain, I finally had learned my lesson: It was not me, it was not him, it was us. We were just not a good match. Trying to change a man is always a bad idea and it has been proven multiple times along the decades. Unless the man is willing to work on some bad habits for your sake, you will never manage to change him and believe me when I say, when a man truly loves you, he will give his very best ...

As I'm growing more aware of the trend of talking about famous movies and TV series. I decided to write an article about what are - in my opinion - the most iconic love stories that by all means truly toxic and codependent. I consider useful to analyse what seams to be the most perfect, romantic relationship illustrated in a movie or a sitcom and reveal it for what it truly is: malicious. Let us do the countdown backwards as it increases the excitement, shall we? Number 5:  Lucas and Payton - One Tree Hill. All throughout the series, Payton was proved to be a confused little girl who had no idea what she truly wanted until it was taken away from her. She is far from the only female character behaving this way in modern TV Shows but what I specifically dislike in Payton is how she feels she is the rightful receiver of Luca's affections, regardless of who could get hurt in the process and when she finally has the chance to be with him, she finds a reason not to. Having lack...

Due to my work and type of job I get to travel quite a bit so a few years ago, my steps led me into an encountering with an old boyfriend for lunch in one of the cities I visited. Just so I clear all possible occurred questions -  old boyfriend in this story means a relationship I had when I was 14. It was indeed a consuming, passionate and life-changing experience of my first love but it was platonic and way before we even knew what sex was. I loved that boy when I was young and I loved him for a long time, building in my head this false image of him, putting him on a pedestal and clinging of every whisper of love he had ever given me. And the suffering? Was torture. At an age of firsts it is utterly problematic to find a way to cope with your emotions. So I would always get on the rather redundant emotional rollercoaster that my off and on relationship with this boy was at that time, every time hoping it will be different. I couldn't say I was emotionally scared or traumatis...

In a world where you are continuously being sold to, how do we make a difference between what is real and what is pure marketing? The other I overheard a conversation between some co-workers and I couldn't contain my surprise to hear the words coming out of their mouths. They are all gorgeous, powerful, career-driven women who refuse to find themselves in relationship because they are constantly waiting for more.  The other day Carrie was telling me how she met this great guy, who treats her really nice, always really careful with what he says but she's not really feeling it. Feeling it? Copyright: pexels.com She is not even the first example, one of my good friends Bonnie is literally desperate to find a good husband as she feels like her good years are coming to and end but she comes back relatively disappointed after dates, mostly claiming the guy is not what she expected him to be. Here is where I got confused. Carrie and Big do not exist in real li...

The first time it occurred I was not older than 14. My mother tends to be the type of person that uses words as weapons when she feels attacked, mostly when she knows she is guilty. So every time she had to face the truth, she'd try putting the blame on me. She'd build a wall of defences by throwing back venom at me such as: "you're a horrible person", "nobody will every love you". Source: www.pexels.com I have always been a strong person. And I wouldn't allow my mum's words get to me. Nevertheless it hurt. That did not mean that was the truth.  Almost 15 years later, I am in a prosperous, fantastic relationship with a great man. Of course I had my fair share of fails but that does not mean I am a horrible person, nor that I am to blame for my love stories came to an end, not in the slightest, I have always done my best and if it didn't work out, I let it go. I am enough for myself, so if a relationship should not be destine...